A wannabe Kryptonian with a rusting bedhead hair that smells of exotic Cocobolo wood; a big-mouthed self-proclaimed diva who hates waiting because then she'll get bored to tears thus prompting her to behave rather bizarrely; and an Urs Toni Bühler-freak who refuses to stay on the sidelines.
Actually, I think this is one of the best songs I've EVER heard in my life so far. This song, though, is a wee bit underrated. I sooo love Rob Thomas and "EVER The Same" has been one of those songs that I find EVER so remarkable. Also, I love playing this on guitar but, of course, I wouldn't dare post the videos here. Haha! So here's the lyrics:
Rob Thomas - "Ever The Same"
We were drawn from the weeds We were brave like soldiers Falling down under the pale moonlight You were holding to me Like a someone broken And I couldn't tell you but I'm telling you now
Just let me hold you while you're falling apart Just let me hold you and we'll both fall down
Fall on me Tell me everything you want me to be Forever with you forever in me Ever the same
We would stand in the wind We were free like water Flowing down Under the warmth of the sun Now it's cold and we're scared And we've both been shaken Hey, look at us Man, this doesn't need to be the end
Just let me hold you while you're falling apart Just let me hold you and we'll both fall down
Fall on me tell me everything you want me to be Forever with you Forever in me Ever the same Call on me I'll be there for you and you'll be there for me Forever it's you Forever in me Ever the same
You may need me there To carry all your weight But you're no burden I assure You tide me over With a warmth I'll not forget But I can only give you love
Fall on me tell me everything you want me to be Forever with you Forever in me Ever the same Call on me I'll be there for you and you'll be there for me Forever it's you Forever in me Ever the same
Forever with you Forever in me Ever the same(Ever the same)
I am a lighthouse Worn by the weather and the waves I keep my lamp lit To warn the sailors on their way
I had a keeper He helped me warn the ships at sea We had grown closer Til his joy meant everything to me And he was to marry A girl who shown with beauty and light And they loved each other And with me watched the sunset into night
And the waves crashing around me The sand slips out to sea And the winds that blow remind me Of what has been and what can never... be...
She'd had to leave us My keeper, he prayed for her safe return But when the night came, The weather to a raging storm had turned He watched her ship fight, But in vain against the wild and terrible wind In me so helpless As dashed against the rocks she met her end
And the waves crashing around me The sand slips out to sea And the winds that blow remind me Of what has been and what can never... be...
Then on the next day, My keeper found her washed up on the shore He kissed her cold face That they'd be together soon he swore I saw him crying Watched as he buried her in the sand Then he climbed my tower And off the edge of me he ran
And the waves crashing around me The sand slips out to sea And the winds that blow remind me Of what has been and what can never... be...
I am a lighthouse Worn by the weather and the waves And though I'm empty I still warn the sailors on their way
oh i saw you in the distance i thought that we would end this but here we are again here we are again
oh you are dancin' to the music i thought that i was through with this but here we are again here we are again
i'm holdin' onto some day wishin' there was some way to let you go
maybe we should stop pretending like we're gonna say goodbye this time coz one look from you and it's over darling it's not over maybe it is time to lay it on the line
so i, i tried to keep my distance road that takes resistance here we are again here we are again
oh i knew that lookin' out my window watchin' you walk out below that we were here again here we go again
i'm holdin' onto some day wishin' there was some way to let you go
maybe we should stop pretending like we're gonna say goodbye this time coz one look from you and it's over darling it's not over maybe it is time to lay it on the line
coz every road i take to walk away just leads me back to you and when i wake oh when i dream all i can think about is what could be
maybe we should stop pretending like we're gonna say goodbye this time coz one look from you and it's over darling it's not over maybe it is time to lay it on the line to lay it on the line to lay it on the line...
Women and Tattoos Unsurprisingly, some still do not realize that there are women who are bold enough to cross over their usual boundaries. Until now, people tend to look at women getting a tattoo with contempt. With negative connotations and unnatural boldness ascribed to tattoos, we can understand how getting one would require untapped guts for a woman. I remember being inside the tattoo parlor and constantly feeling awkward with all those scrutinizing eyes aimed at me. Being stared and glared at by many people is just a manifestation of how women and tattoos don’t exactly mesh well.
"Gendered" Tattoo We know that tattoos are considered as symbols that can carry meaning. Power and value could also be effectively manifested through these. It was an utter disappointment when the tattoo artist told me that I should not get this particular tattoo because it is "too strong" for me.
It seems that tattoos are also "gendered". Those signifying strength are seen as ‘masculine’ while those cute arty ones are regarded as ‘feminine’. Therefore, taking this into account, we can see how distinctly stratified gender is as it defines things that are ‘masculine’ as more powerful and even holding more value. Gender Roles How men respect and show consideration for women in a society shows how gender roles play. At the tattoo parlor, I experienced being treated as a woman. We were offered seats and given priority. Men were very mindful of our actions.
However, it is important to note that men tend to act chivalrous. They may see it as a mere sensitive or thoughtful act but at times, it comes out as insulting and disdainful. Sometimes I even think that men probably act courteous because it makes them feel more ‘manly’ or better about themselves.
Men are naturally competitive, a trait remarkable to the two male customers bragging about their tattoos. They tend to show off their masculinity by expressing how tolerant they are to certain degrees of pain.
Women, on the other hand, are submissive and emotional beings. We are quick to show our feelings to others just like how the girl sitting beside me talked to me without hesitations. Filling in the role of a caring mother is also innate for a woman.
Gender and Social Stratification As we observe the gender stratification that can be seen in the workplace, male domination is irrefutable nonetheless. Nowadays, the idea of women assisting men is unbridled. In this case, the tattoo artist’s girlfriend has a feeble hold of the shop. Apparently, the male tattoo artists do control the shop. But if we look closely, the female ones possess same skills that male ones have. In other words, the performance gap that emerges naturally comes from the fact that men hinder the opportunities available for women.
This leads to an unfussy question: Is being a tattoo artist a ‘masculine’ job?
Typically, if we go around and check out every tattoo parlor, it is undeniable that male tattoo artists outnumber the female ones. But it also leads to another question: If women are innately artistically-inclined, how come there are fewer female tattoo artists?
In some societies where tattoo is considered a semi-taboo, it is very unnatural for women to be involved in this kind of blemished occupation. For some, being strapped to this job can even suggest that a woman is sexually loose. Or perhaps, it is simply due to the fact that working in a tattoo shop is not really the nature of work women fits into.
Patriarchy and Sexism Sexism is also unavoidable in this type of heterogeneous setting. The idea that men are innately superior and stronger than women is also visible. We can see how the tattoo artist treated a female customer. He initially questioned her capacity by suggesting not to be tattooed at a certain area because she will not be able to tolerate it when, in fact, I saw most of the guys with excessive tattoos on theirs.
Publicity and the "Beauty Myth" Through mass media and even ordinary advertisements, gender stratification is also being materialized. Before, I noticed that tattoo advertisements were directed to men only. But nowadays, it seems that showing off a tattoo, particularly on the lower back, is currently a well-liked fad to women.
However, is having a tattoo considered as a feature or something that essentially surpasses the notions attached to the "beauty myth"? Certainly, we are aware of the basic standards of beauty but can we consider a woman with a tattoo appealing to men? Within the parameters of physical appearance, did it already qualify to what people currently perceive as beautiful or ‘womanly’?
The answer may be linked to the current transformation of our society. In other countries, this form of art is already accepted as an outlet of individuality, creativity, and audacity for women, with female celebrities displaying theirs shamelessly and I am confident to say that we, Filipinos, are getting there.
Looking Ahead It is but delightful to see how the society has been transforming. The progress may be slow but still we can see how much we have changed. Our fair view on gender and the pursuit of social equality are things that we should be proud of. Towards a better future, people should value one another at the same level. If what it means to be female and male is mostly a creation of society, and the view of superiority are to be defined by both, then we can establish an equal footing for men and women in the future.
I was having second thoughts in writing this '25 Random Things' note but I was enticed by my crazy friends to share it anyway. I already did one before in Myspace... not as interesting though. So here it goes:
25 Random Things You Probably Didn't Wanna Know About Me
Rules: Once you’ve been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. You have to tag the person who tagged you. If I tagged you, it’s because I want to know more about you!
1. EATING is my pastime. Guys, don’t be surprised if you found out I’m just as heavy as you are… or maybe heavier. I believe all those fats have been squeezed into my butt. LOL
2. I have this tendency to watch films and TV episodes over and over again (which annoys my mom). I think I have watched She’s The Man more than 20 times. White Chicks and The OC’s “Rainy Day Women” episode come in a close second. Ha ha!
3. One summer, I went “HOTEL-HOPPING” with my cousins for a month. We stayed in five (5) different hotels around the city. It was undeniably fun although a bit exhausting. Yay to breakfast buffets!
4. I am seriously obsessed with entertainment GOSSIP! I have a huge collection of entertainment magazines and Hollywood tabloids stacked in my room. Also, I check out PerezHilton.com and TMZ.com almost everyday. And oh, I love Harvey Levin!
5. Like a CHAMELEON, I have the ability to easily blend in any situation.
6 is my favorite number. I was born on the 6th of January, our house stands on 6 Rosas Street, my jersey number is 6, and I have a 6th sense (nonSENSE!). Ha ha!
7. I may be extremely disorganized and messy with my room but I am such a perfectionist in several other ways. For instance, wrong spellings bother me. I would go over my work many times just to make sure everything is all good.
8. Due to speaking in different languages, I have developed some SPEECH PROBLEMS. I used to have a rather excellent diction but now my tongue ends up in weird places of articulation thus producing unfavorable sounds. It is kinda sad. Ha ha!
9. My SPECIALTY chow: Bacon and Eggs! (Sorry to disappoint some of you BUT I can't cook… I would love to learn how to, though)
10. Fortune telling, tarot card reading, and palm reading warned me of my incredibly AMBITIOUS nature. According to the fortune tellers and card readers, they see me as someone who is fascinated with flying all over the world. And it seems that my love life will stay bleak (as in!) until those dreams have been fulfilled. I hope not ‘coz they’re limitless. Hehe.
11. People who can keep up with my craziness amuse me. I find it rare for someone to just jump on the bandwagon and make things go crazier than ever.
12. I may have a talent in hiding my anger but some people told me that it can be a little obvious through my JAW. I clench my jaw, apparently.
13. I am a DREAMER. I dream every single day and I can remember everything which is a bit remarkable. I used to keep a dream journal but I got tired eventually. I also have this rare ability of continuing interrupted dreams. Lucid dreams are not unusual for me too.
14. I love BLABBING. I could talk about anything under the sun anytime, anywhere, and with anyone. At times, it may be bordering on irritating people. Ha ha!
15. I adore KIDS sooooo much! I love meeting (and stalking) kids everywhere. If kidnapping wasn't illegal, I would have stolen hundreds of babies and create my own "Baby Paradise." LOL
16. I have several NICKNAMES (solely based on my first name): "Daveva," "Danny," "Danita," "Dana Bandana," "Dana-chan," "Dana Banana," "Danababes/Danabebs," "Dance," “Dan,” “Diva," "Danapot," “Danakins,” "Dana Baby," "Duh-nuh,” “D' Naïve," "Dee," and "Dabebs".
17. According to my nutty guy friends, I deserve an AWARD for having the hottest and cutest girl friends in school…which is ridiculously hilarious! They used to uncontrollably drool whenever I bring my friends over to our hangout spot.
18. Some people may find it boring but I love watching football games live and on TV (especially in pubs). VAMOS BARÇA!!! FC Barcelona is my team!
19. I am a SPORTS aficionado. I play football, basketball, table tennis, badminton, and even extreme sports such as skateboarding and sports climbing. I am also a frustrated equestrienne. Ha ha!
20. I used to have great ATTENTION SPAN and FOCUS. However, I noticed that I have suddenly transformed into a horrible person who can’t stay still and listen to one person for a long period of time. It’s terrible, I know. Hehe.
21. Some people may not know but I love ART. I used to join contests but now I just doodle on my Japanese books and calligraphy paper. I plan to start charcoal painting again... soon.
22. In relation to #21: A PAINTING of mine, made when I was around 13 years old, was displayed and sold at a museum.
23. Whenever I’m excited or nervous, my STOMACH hurts. I wonder why…
24. I am SCARED of: creepy underwater entangling plants, roller coasters with gigantic loops (it’s lame, I know), food shortage, getting out of control, and weird gas masks (no kidding!). I will definitely run and hide if I happen to see someone sporting a gas mask.
25. I could say that I have a GENUINE relationship with every special person in my life. I share a different secret with each one (winks). I love you guys! :D